How does trauma bonding happen in third party situation in Twinflame connections

Third-party situations are common in a Twinflame connection. If the runner runs quite enough, they end up running into a karmic connection. A relationship where the runner will be abused for enough time to start self-reflecting and do their inner work, also to recognise the value of their Twinflame and to go back. Yes, Karmics are a blessing for a Twinflame connection from a higher perspective. Karmic connections refine the incredibly stubborn divine masculines, helping them in ascension and awaken to their mission work.

Trauma bonding can also happen in a Twinflame connection. But if it happens, it happens between all three, not just between the DM and DF. Because it’s an energetic loop between all three.

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BLAME – shadow attributes

I have talked about a lot of light attributes like compassion, empathy, unconditional love. Today let’s talk about a dark attribute, that is blame.

Whatever happens to us, we tend to or even love to project the blame outwards. Someone else is the cause of all our suffering.

We should not blame anything or anyone. Because everything outside of us, is a reflection of what is inside of us, the darkness inside us.

Everything and everyone is a mirror.

It’s just not a Starseed, a healer or a twin flame that mirrors us, it’s the whole world.

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Judgements

#JUDGEMENTS

You are an individual life on your own. Life is a gift from god and so do not take it for granted. Do not live for other people be it a lover, family, friends, colleagues, authority, society anyone.

God gave you a life of freedom, he never asked you to suppress yourself for others.

Those people, even their life is a gift from god.. but sometimes the ego becomes so big that humans start thinking they are greater than god. And then comes the day when God puts people in their right place.

For starseeds:
You are different, you were born different. Because you chose to break ancestral traumas & generations of depression.

No matter who tells you what about yourself. Remember you are A GIFT TO HUMANITY FROM GOD.

People can’t understand it because it will take them to transcend their ego. To be thankful that finally someone has been born in their family line to heal all of them, to transmute their karma. They don’t need to be thankful only for bringing someone to life, but also grateful for being chosen to bring an ascended soul to life.

People need to stop trying to control and judge starseeds. Instead be grateful that they have a starseed in their life.

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CONTROL

It is believed that control is power. But is it really true?

Why do we want control? Is it really related to love or not?

Control is good when it comes to self. To make conscious decisions and actions you need inner stability. Brahmakumaris say “Law with self and love with others”.

But usually what people do is they struggle to have self-control on their own thoughts, negative emotions, reactions and hence their own life. To compensate for it, they do try to gain control from the outside, that’s what ego loves. The more low vibrational & weaker the soul is, the more it loves control.

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Why do twin flames recieve so much hate from the judgemental society?

I call it “judgmental” society because there is another community which respects twin flames like anything. The community that includes Lightworkers/starseeds, humanities, healers, shamans, earth angels, poets and lovers.

Twin flames are a symbol of love. So everyone who isn’t vibrating on the frequency of love, hates them. That’s why toxic people hate us the most. Anyone who is disconnected from their true self, who doesn’t feel love inside, who doesn’t have self-love, who doesn’t believe in love, who hates love, who has attached negative stories to the definition of love, who is wounded inside, who lives in toxicity and disfunction, everyone who doesn’t have faith, hates us. Just like everyone who struggles with their own darkness, hates Lightworkers.

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Never lose yourself for others

Sometimes for love, for approval, for the opinions of people, we try to change ourselves. We feel we need to adjust with others and change ourselves but how much?

Have you realised what it feels to be someone who you are not. It just takes the life out of you. The price that you pay is more than anything. Be self-aware.

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Twin Flame or Karmic?

Is it a twin flame relationship or a karmic account? Let me explain how to find out.

People have created such a stigma around twin flame relationships. That sometimes when you are in a toxic relationship, you think that is also a twin flame. But sometimes it can be karmic which makes them your false twin flame.

Specially Empaths and codependents, if they fall in love with a Narcissist they tend to think it’s a soulmate or a twin flame. It happens because you don’t want to accept that what’s happening to you is abuse, because of love-bombing, cognitive dissonance, trauma bonding and parent child dynamic.

With time you will realise that it’s a Narcissist, because relationship with a Narc can not last a very long time, without the truth coming to the surface. Whereas twin flame relationships go into separation so both the people can heal and come back into a healthy relationship.

**If you are an empath, spiritual person or understand energies, it’s easy to figure out. When you say that you are made of each other and your soul feels it. What does it actually feel? I used to feel as if we are chained together. I am growing but I have to pull the other person with me, even if I have to slow down. The chain is nothing like an angelic chain or golden chain, it’s a heavy rusty iron chain. That’s a karmic relationship, where you haven’t learnt the lessons yet, which is keeping you stuck with them.

**Whereas if you think about your twin flame, you won’t feel any links like cords or chains. You just see that person as simply you. You know you both are the same soul. You don’t feel any cord but you know that there is a connection at every level. Even when you go through separation and triggering, you will still find there loving energy healing you in 5D.

Your twin flame is the one with whom you have been before also, in other lives/higher dimensions, so it feels like home. Usually, when you discuss about your life, you find out that theirs and your life have almost been through same templates.

Now, this is the part which creates confusion, do you understand them better since you know how tough your past was. Or are you with them because you think that, since you were both abused in the same way in past/childhood, so now you are a match. This is your wound-mate, not a soulmate.

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Is it LOVE or ATTACHMENT?

Till the day you give in to your fears or act according to your wounds, it’s attachment. The day you break free, it becomes love, because before that it’s all about ME, ME, ME.

It’s about yourself because you want the other person to adjust for you, you want the other person to wait for you till you complete your other priorities, you want society to understand your love before loving who you claim to love. Sometimes you don’t even want to confess your love because you are afraid of rejection, it will hurt your ego. You want the other person to understand, you want the other person to compromise, you want to be right, you want them to make you feel safe against your own insecurities, you want them to love you first, so that you won’t have to step up, so that you don’t have to fight your insecurities on your own. You don’t want to see them happy with anyone else you leave them alone anyway.

You want them to wait so that you can clear all other things in your life, before you give them back. You claim you want to bring balance, but for that also you want the other person to be patient and do your job. Where’s the balance now? You have all these high expectations of them, but what about their basic needs.

Till the day everything is about yourself, it’s attachment, it’s not love. Love does not give in to fears, love is not selfish. Love frees, love teaches love, but it also teaches to fight against everything else, all barriers, to keep that love by your side. Love does not want something in return, it surrenders.

When your love becomes unconditional, it becomes free, free of opinions, free of limitations, free of fears, free of everything else. Once everyone can see it’s unconditional, no opinion can interfere anyway. It becomes free, it surrenders. True love is surrender to the feeling of love and to the one you love.

So is it love? Ask yourself.

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Only insecure people try to make others feel insecure

A confident person will never try to make anyone feel insecure, only an insecure person will.

I dealt with so many toxic people that this became my Mantra, I have it by heart. As soon as someone tries to put me down or make me feel bad about myself, I look at them and I see their value in their own eyes. It takes me minutes to realise and I don’t stay in the low state for long. Time & experiences make you tough.

Always have a bigger perspective, a person who tries to make anyone feel insecure, is insecure himself. Anyone who demotivates you, doesn’t appreciate your effort, criticizes you, is doing it because probably he can never even put the effort that you are putting in.

Have this by heart, never think twice on those negative voices, take minutes to self-reflect and learn if there is a possibility to improve, otherwise leave the situation there. Do not waste time arguing with stupid people, set boundaries and leave.

They ain’t paying your bills, you ain’t gotta pay them your mind. ✌🏻 Don’t take that shit & own who you are.

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