Third-party situations are common in a Twinflame connection. If the runner runs quite enough, they end up running into a karmic connection. A relationship where the runner will be abused for enough time to start self-reflecting and do their inner work, also to recognise the value of their Twinflame and to go back. Yes, Karmics are a blessing for a Twinflame connection from a higher perspective. Karmic connections refine the incredibly stubborn divine masculines, helping them in ascension and awaken to their mission work.
Trauma bonding can also happen in a Twinflame connection. But if it happens, it happens between all three, not just between the DM and DF. Because it’s an energetic loop between all three.
You are an individual life on your own. Life is a gift from god and so do not take it for granted. Do not live for other people be it a lover, family, friends, colleagues, authority, society anyone.
God gave you a life of freedom, he never asked you to suppress yourself for others.
Those people, even their life is a gift from god.. but sometimes the ego becomes so big that humans start thinking they are greater than god. And then comes the day when God puts people in their right place.
For starseeds: You are different, you were born different. Because you chose to break ancestral traumas & generations of depression.
No matter who tells you what about yourself. Remember you are A GIFT TO HUMANITY FROM GOD.
People can’t understand it because it will take them to transcend their ego. To be thankful that finally someone has been born in their family line to heal all of them, to transmute their karma. They don’t need to be thankful only for bringing someone to life, but also grateful for being chosen to bring an ascended soul to life.
People need to stop trying to control and judge starseeds. Instead be grateful that they have a starseed in their life.
It is believed that control is power. But is it really true?
Why do we want control? Is it really related to love or not?
Control is good when it comes to self. To make conscious decisions and actions you need inner stability. Brahmakumaris say “Law with self and love with others”.
But usually what people do is they struggle to have self-control on their own thoughts, negative emotions, reactions and hence their own life. To compensate for it, they do try to gain control from the outside, that’s what ego loves. The more low vibrational & weaker the soul is, the more it loves control.
I call it “judgmental” society because there is another community which respects twin flames like anything. The community that includes Lightworkers/starseeds, humanities, healers, shamans, earth angels, poets and lovers.
Twin flames are a symbol of love. So everyone who isn’t vibrating on the frequency of love, hates them. That’s why toxic people hate us the most. Anyone who is disconnected from their true self, who doesn’t feel love inside, who doesn’t have self-love, who doesn’t believe in love, who hates love, who has attached negative stories to the definition of love, who is wounded inside, who lives in toxicity and disfunction, everyone who doesn’t have faith, hates us. Just like everyone who struggles with their own darkness, hates Lightworkers.
Sometimes for love, for approval, for the opinions of people, we try to change ourselves. We feel we need to adjust with others and change ourselves but how much?
Have you realised what it feels to be someone who you are not. It just takes the life out of you. The price that you pay is more than anything. Be self-aware.
Let’s talk about a very common manipulation tactic that I observe often in Bangalore/metros.
People are educated so they need some advanced technique. When you meet someone new, suppose while getting shared cab or maybe at a grocery store, on a trip or just somewhere random. A lot of time same gender people, who start talking randomly coz they saw you with no boundaries. And in some time they are like we must be soulmates/soul sisters/ soul family etc.
That’s a Narcissistic person trying to score new people/supply who can believe in their false image.
Beware of the trap. Soon they will show their true self which will not match with the first interaction you had.
Just like there are false twin flames, there are fake soulmates too.
You don’t have to think like “oh I am unhealed, so my soulmates should be unhealed ones too.” Nop, that does not happen. When soulmates enter your life, either something magical happens or you have a family type of vibe with them, or they might teach you something to put you on the right path.
Also soulmates come with spiritual love to help you grow spiritually, and you know it’s a different feeling than you generally have, even with friends. Soulmates are a lot of times people who were once your spirit guides or your closed ones in past life. This is why people keep talking about past life, when you meet a soulmate sometimes there might be past life karma needing to be resolved initially. But karma with a karmic account is a lot different than karma with a soulmate. With soulmates, karma is only to teach each other lessons that you had agreed to, before coming here, with compassion & unconditional love, not by abuse like Narcissists.
Don’t trust anyone who just says they are your soulmate. Often jealous, abusive toxic people use this manipulation tactic and soon they start hitting your self-esteem, violating boundaries, identify theft, mirroring etc. Always wait for some time for the person to reveal if they are really your soulmate.
Toxic people try to find the happiness externally so they look out for people with such labels.
Is it a twin flame relationship or a karmic account? Let me explain how to find out.
People have created such a stigma around twin flame relationships. That sometimes when you are in a toxic relationship, you think that is also a twin flame. But sometimes it can be karmic which makes them your false twin flame.
Specially Empaths and codependents, if they fall in love with a Narcissist they tend to think it’s a soulmate or a twin flame. It happens because you don’t want to accept that what’s happening to you is abuse, because of love-bombing, cognitive dissonance, trauma bonding and parent child dynamic.
With time you will realise that it’s a Narcissist, because relationship with a Narc can not last a very long time, without the truth coming to the surface. Whereas twin flame relationships go into separation so both the people can heal and come back into a healthy relationship.
**If you are an empath, spiritual person or understand energies, it’s easy to figure out. When you say that you are made of each other and your soul feels it. What does it actually feel? I used to feel as if we are chained together. I am growing but I have to pull the other person with me, even if I have to slow down. The chain is nothing like an angelic chain or golden chain, it’s a heavy rusty iron chain. That’s a karmic relationship, where you haven’t learnt the lessons yet, which is keeping you stuck with them.
**Whereas if you think about your twin flame, you won’t feel any links like cords or chains. You just see that person as simply you. You know you both are the same soul. You don’t feel any cord but you know that there is a connection at every level. Even when you go through separation and triggering, you will still find there loving energy healing you in 5D.
Your twin flame is the one with whom you have been before also, in other lives/higher dimensions, so it feels like home. Usually, when you discuss about your life, you find out that theirs and your life have almost been through same templates.
Now, this is the part which creates confusion, do you understand them better since you know how tough your past was. Or are you with them because you think that, since you were both abused in the same way in past/childhood, so now you are a match. This is your wound-mate, not a soulmate.
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