I get it now, why all twin flames try to confide with other Twin Flames because “normal” people can’t really understand it.
No one understands why you feel so much love when you feel love for that person, no one understands why you feel so much pain when you feel the pain.
I can only say I already remember almost 200+ years of love with the same person. What would you do if you remembered all of that? And this is only the part that my mind remembers, but my soul remembers of eternity. Most of the people can’t even love the same person for even a few years, I guess that’s why they can’t understand it.
All twin flames are high vibrational souls who come here with a spiritual mission. All Lightworkers always go through a lot of struggles, to overcome oppression and step into their true power. Twin flames also go through the same, but their journey is more complicated in context of the connection.
Divine Feminine (or Masculine whoever wakes up first), understands the connection completely and shows unconditional love towards their twin from starting. But the other twin comes in unhealed, who’s awakening is still due. Once the second twin also awakens to this connection, union happens. But what happens till union is separation.
Hurting someone’s ego is not a bad thing, not a sin.
Whole life people have tried to abuse me because I challenged their entitled ego. It is really a bad thing to hurt someone’s ego. Or is that about self-respect? Well, entitled ego makes people fake, deceitful, bullies, abusers, manipulators, so I don’t think hurting someone’s ego is a bad thing.
You hurt someone’s ego, i.e. in psychological terms, you cause them an ego injury. So now they think of you as an enemy and want to abuse you to make your life difficult to take revenge. They blame you for hurting them. Wait, what was it that got hurt? ego or self-respect?
Entitled egos are meant to be broken, even everyone’s ego is meant to be broken, at least if you want to grow spiritually and become a self-fulfilled person. Whether you feel inferior or superior, both are coming from a place of ego.
Ego is must to be transcended, it’s a part of awakening. When you shed your false beliefs about yourself, old belief systems, what image society put on you to carry, what opinions and insecurities they put on you, everything needs to be shed, in order to achieve awakening. It’s a painful process, but when you learn to endure pain, you come out stronger. All these things will she like layers of an onion, what will come out at the end, will be your truest, most authentic self, your higher self, your soul.
So next time a Narcissistic toxic person goes “you are hurting me”, throwing toddler tantrums, for causing them an ego injury, for showing them they are not what they think they are. Don’t let their reactions affect you.
The fact is, no one ever said to me that I am too blunt or anything I just know it because I am a psychic.
I am a Lightworker and every lightworker has a unique life purpose. One of my spiritual gifts is authenticity, that’s the uniqueness I got as a lightworker. Spirit chooses Lightworkers and engraves light codes in their souls. My soul is engraved with authenticity, because spirit wanted it to be that way. My soul desires to speak the truth with authenticity, this desire is put inside my soul by the divine powers itself, it’s spirit’s own desire.
The second picture is from Insta story, please bear with the typos.
Spirit uses me to send this truth to you, through me. Now when I have come this far on my spiritual journey and in touch with spirit, spirit’s desires are my desires. I am just an instrument now.
Anyways when I used to be scared and try to say the truth indirectly, it didn’t change much, people were still triggered and abused me. I would better be my authentic self if the result is always going to be the same.
Truth hits your soul. Truth triggers you. Truth shatters your illusions. Truth remains the same, no matter how it’s said, with anger or calm, with aggression or with grace, in wars or in peace. What I share is Spiritual truth, divine truth. It’s not your truth or my truth, it’s universal. It’s going to trigger you if you are not in touch with the truth. You don’t like it because it triggers you to do shadow work. That’s exactly spirit wants to achieve, to help your soul grow. Your ego does not like it, because it triggers you. But your soul has been waiting to be triggered, so that it can heal and grow and move towards awakening.
Spiritual awakening is all about seeing truth beyond all your illusions. So if you seek spiritual awakening, first you must be a truth seeker. Your soul wants to be one with the source, one with the truth. It wants the truth to be heard, seen and touched.
What I am doing, may not have been done before, but that’s exactly what spirit wants me to do. To create my own path, following my own calling.
I want us to change the vocabulary here. Truth isn’t blunt, sharp or forceful, it’s just plain without any sugarcoating. It’s just the truth.
I know it’s going to be hard if you just started your self-love journey. It was, for me too.
Let’s start from the point where I had to start, I had completely rejected and forgotten all parts of me, all my past that I did not like. And then I had to finally face everything.
I haven’t been posting anything about my relationships here, because you know, Indians !! But I can share what is required badly now. Anyways most of the people who know me, they know all of this stuff.
I was in a relationship with a guy, quite toxic. When the relationship started to fall off, in just a few months, I tried to fix everything. He just tried to block me everywhere and I kept trying to fix his life for him. I went on telling him to work on his self-esteem, his friendships, his conflict-avoidant nature. I ended up with no results because you can not change a person unless they want to, this has been a lesson that life kept throwing at me repeatedly for three years, even in friendships and at work, until I started using it into my life.
Whatever I tried to fix for him, in a few months I started observing the same problems in my life. First my own self-esteem, my own habit of people-pleasing, next to my toxic friendships, my boundaries, my priorities and then all patterns that I acquired while growing up.
I was just thrown off into deep shadow work, just like that. My life was falling apart and with that, all my wounds were coming to surface. I started writing all my emotions into a diary, I kept writing each fear of mine into that list. I also wrote each memory from my past that haunted me. Meanwhile, new people, new abusers, new problems, kept coming into my life at the same time. It was very difficult, but I just made it through somehow, all I knew was to not give up.
When I was over the phase of writing everything down, as much as I could m I started working on it one by one. I still have flashbacks of things that I rejected about myself, but now it’s easy because I have practised enough. Every time I remember a bitter memory, I know what wound it caused and what behaviours I learnt, what shame it put me into.
A lot of motivational speakers show self-love as if it’s going to be all good. But it’s a difficult process to learn, it’s not all easy, with self-reflection, you are entering into the journey of facing your Shadows, all the shame that anyone has ever caused in life and made you feel less worthy, it’s all going to come to the surface.
Healing is a journey, there is never going to be an end to it, but after a point, you will reach saturation, and that point is our goal.
Self-acceptance is so important, it means self-reflection, self-love, shadow work, all are being done. Learn to accept all parts of yourself and that a lot of stuff has been put by this world onto you. Start being your own friend, you will start getting rid of the shame, your environment caused you. Self-acceptance made me accept my own mistakes and also whatever wrong was done to me.
If you find your own mistakes, it’s okay to take time to feel the regret, give yourself time to grieve. But after a point, you have to stop grieving and forgive yourself. Some people might have done something, that isn’t forgivable morally. But all you can do is free yourself from resentment. You do not have to carry someone else’s pain anymore. Free yourself. People get their Karma eventually. Your focus should not be about them getting their Karma back, but about taking your power back, giving yourself a chance to live your true authentic self.
Share is not an easy thing to come out of, but you are strong and you can do it. You do not need to share your bad experiences with everyone, but if you will look around, there will be 2-3 people in your life, who will be ready to accept all parts of you. I found that in my family, I never expected it to turn out that way, but they have been through everything with me.
Look around, share it with someone who knows what listening to shame means, who loves you unconditionally, who has a compassionate heart and makes you feel safe. If that is not possible, be your own friend, share things with yourself, learn to console yourself. All you need to do is, be true to yourself. Whatever you show to the world, at least don’t hide the truth from yourself. If you that, your soul suffers with it, I have experienced it personally.
You can always go for therapy, it’s a therapists job to make you feel comfortable and safe to share all your emotions with them. Please do not suffer in silence (adding this part after watching the new today).
Shadow is the part of yourself that you have rejected, out of your own insecurities, because of trauma, the moments of shame and feeling worthless. All those are acknowledged as a shadow. Most of the times, what you hate about others, is also a part of your shadow. Once you have done shadow work, you will know the difference, you will experience self-fulfilment.
So I just shared something personal, yes I have been in love. Every time I thought now I have found the one, I was disappointed, I have a pretty normal life, just like everyone. I thought trying to fix everything on my own in a relationship is unconditional love, then I started noticing this unconditional love is not bringing me happiness as it should have, I learnt to let people go.
I still remember the day when everyone voted for this topic on Instagram. And since I always pick up energies, I could feel the underlying energy around it. Which was a feeling of “there has to be some big secret to work on your fears”. I kept thinking, trying to figure out that one thing and never found anything. Then I was facing one more fear of mine which made me think again.
The truth is there’s no secret key to it. It’s simple. You just need to face your fears, head-on.
Now how do we learn to face our fears?
First, you need to become more conscious of yourself. When you raise your self-awareness and self-reflection, you are able to navigate all your emotions in a better way. If there is a subconscious fear that is making you act a certain way, now you will be able to notice it. Whereas earlier you won’t even realise why you have certain behavioural patterns.
Sometimes it can be a drastic situation or abuse, which brings those issues up to surface anyways, even when you don’t want it. But once you are able to acknowledge a fear you will be able to work on it.
When you know what type of fear you are facing, you need to be your own friend pat yourself on the back and encourage yourself that you can do it. The first time you are going to do feeling scared. The second time you would know that you can conquer it. Next time you will see the fear will be gone.
Whatever it is, that you are scared of, do it, do it anyway. For everything, what will happen if you fail, what people would say. Just do what you want to do. Life is all about living right!!
It takes a selfless person to do all the healing work. So if you are doing it, appreciation from the universe for you.
It takes a lot of dedication to work on all the wounds, some of which are not your own, they come from society, your environment, your ancestors.
Self-love involves healing, because when you heal you create such good karma for yourself and all the generations that are going to come after you. When you heal yourself, you present authenticity to your connections, you give them true unconditional love.
The abuser is always a person who does not even know how to regulate his/her own emotions. They can not end the cycle of abuse, never. It always takes the victim to make a decision, once the victim decides, he/she can end the cycle. How?
If with a Narcissist, do not give them what they want. Don’t give them drama. If already past that stage, start showing them the mirror, the Narcissists, they fear coming face to face with their own reality.
(Showing a mirror to Narcissist or walking away, both are a form of compassion for them. Just do not engage in the drama and give them a chance of self-reflection. I know it never works, they never are able to self reflect so much, but maybe they start seeing the truth one by one, victim by victim for their whole life. And probably when they get old, they can recall what they did.)
If it’s not a Narcissist, only a toxic person, don’t engage. Don’t engage with them. They are people who are in so much pain inside, that they want to create the same reality outside. They become self-destructive.
If it’s a person who has some kind of power over you, legally. Walk away (Yes, it sounds like an escape, but read it till the end). Now you would say but then I want to prove myself, my worth, I want to take back everything that they have damaged, my image, recognition everything. But no, you do not engage. You trying to prove your worth keeps you in a cycle, that’s what they want. Instead, you acknowledge your worth on your own and leave. Move on to next phase of your life, prove yourself there and these people will get their lessons on their own.
Walking away is a power, it’s such a big power in itself. When you walk away, you show them the difference between you and them. That you are not willing to waste time on these stupid games. Always remember, walking away is power. It will save you from a lot of misery.
Take back your power, do not put your worth in their hands, do not define your worth by how they treat you. Do not wait for them to accept your worth and treat you right. You are worthy, on your own. You are an amazing fantabulous person, just as you are. Never forget your own worth.
And you never know, if you are strong enough to take this decision, maybe God will smile and give you a chance to prove yourself, just before you are about to leave. I got that chance & I love my decisions now.
People look at highly sensitives and empaths as weak. But they are not.
Some may believe that a sensitive person is triggered easily, but it is not the case. Most of the sensitive people trigger others. They show you your own shadow aspect and what needs to be healed. The same reason why Narcs are always after empaths.
Some look at it as, you need to be careful around a sensitive person about how to talk, how to behave, but it’s actually teaching you a right way of behaviour, it shows you your own patterns, coping mechanisms and reached you an emotionally healthy way of being and respecting boundaries.
Sensitives are not weak, it’s only them, who are so much in touch with their emotions. That they can do the work to heal themselves and others too. “They have what it takes”, to go inward, sit with the pain, observe all the emotions and work on them. They can transmute the energy that comes towards them and bring high vibrational energies into their environment. They have the strength to break the chain of negativity, pain and generation of Ancestral trauma.
Empathy is all that it takes to self-reflect, become self-aware, learn self-love and reach self-fulfilment. You are not awake if you don’t have empathy. A lot of great spiritual teachers define awakening by one quality that is humility. No matter how many spiritual practices you do, but if empathy and compassion are missing, you still have a lot to learn.
Most of the Lightworkers, starseeds, healers, earth Angels, highly spiritual people i.e. all high vibrational souls are highly sensitive. They are here to teach everyone a high vibrational way of connection and relationships.
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