There are so many types of worldly loves on this planet. Platonic love, romantic love, faithful love, loyal love, showoff love, materialistic love, conditional love, toxic love, abusive love.. we often talk about all of these, but rarely about sacred love.
True unconditional love is sacred, it’s divine, it’s pure.. it comes from the heavens and is protected by God himself.
Love is such a controversial topic. It’s the most important pillar in the foundation of life, yet so underrated.
Fear of abandonment is the first thing which is common in both Narcissists and codependent Empaths. It keeps them both stuck in a toxic cycle.
Codependents take abuse only because of their fear of abandonment. Narcissists manipulate people, so when they sense that their mask is falling off and the victim can see it, they escalate the abuse.
Fear of abandonment makes people not trust, not be in touch with their emotions and run away at the slightest chance of abandonment. Where it gets difficult is maybe there is no one even thinking about abandoning the person, but they will keep reacting to their own fear and ruin a stable relationship. It causes a lot of inner turmoil to accept the truth.
This fear makes you feel like even good things are too good to be true. It’s an inner child wound and most of the time it comes from childhood trauma. The person needs to do inner child work, work on self-love and improve the self-talk, replace negative thoughts with rational thoughts & positive affirmations. And sometimes let that fear become real, let someone abandon you, process all your emotions that come after it for once, the fear will be gone. Time heals everything.
I know it’s easier said than done. But a temporary pain can heal your fears for a lifetime. You stayed with this fear for decades and it doesn’t feel good to live in fear. Let’s overcomes it for once and enjoy a happy emotional life.
All the best for your self-love and healing journey. Healing is selfless deed and Universe appreciates & supports everyone who is trying to heal themselves. When you heal, blessings will soon be revealed. Sending you love and light XOXOXO
Every soul is innately free-spirited and limitless.
It’s our belief systems that keep us limited. We think Karma is caused by our bad actions done towards someone else. But mostly it is caused by our own belief systems. We hold on to our limiting beliefs and they keep us trapped.
All you need to do is shed those limiting beliefs and grow, you will feel free.
When I was going through my Spiritual awakening, the decision to move away from toxic people, leaving the 9 to 5, telling my friends and family about my Spiritual awakening, talking about my past on my blog, talking about my Psychic abilities. Everything was as scary as it could be, because I didn’t personally know anyone else who had gone through the same things. No one in my family line had ever used tarot even. Everytime opening up made me face the fear of what will it bring. Will it push people away or will they be able to accept it?
It was just my limited belief that something tragic would happen, everything will crumble. But it didn’t, I showed my new-self over & over, and they loved it. Remember, people who won’t like your growth, are the ones who probably should not be in your life. But at the same time, it made me count, how many people have a probability to fall away and how many will stay. And what if I end up alone. That’s the fear. What if I don’t open up, would I have to pretend to be someone that I’m not, for whole my life.
I followed my heart and did it anyway and I am happy with the outcomes. I did take sometime to first porcess everything by myself and then share. Because it was my responsibility to communicate it in the right way, when you are comfortable inside, you are comfortable outside too. Me being authentic, brought so much transparency in our relationships and we are happy. I even chose to stick to some people that I had a rough relationship with, but we healed it. With me transcending my ego, transcended all my relationships into unconditional love.
Most of the time, it’s just what we fear that keeps us trapped, not people. When you choose to show your authentic self to the world, the universe chooses to shower you with love 10 times more, it always brings healing. When you surrender, give something selflessly, the universe rewards it 10 times back.
The universe/God does not test your commitment to itself, but towards your own soul. So how willing are you to free your soul?
It takes a selfless person to do all the healing work. So if you are doing it, appreciation from the universe for you.
It takes a lot of dedication to work on all the wounds, some of which are not your own, they come from society, your environment, your ancestors.
Self-love involves healing, because when you heal you create such good karma for yourself and all the generations that are going to come after you. When you heal yourself, you present authenticity to your connections, you give them true unconditional love.