Karmic Relationships

I have been talking about Twin Flames and soulmates. Today let’s talk about karmic relationships.

As it sounds, it’s about karma. Karma not necessarily from a past life, but karma that makes you wound mates. It can be anyone, that spirit aligns you to meet if that is what required to push you towards the path of inner work. This person will mirror all your childhood wounds and past wounds, it will feel familiar like a soulmate because you will feel you have so much in common. But is it meant to last?

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Let everyone have the freedom to be the way they want to be

Be the way you want to be and let everyone else also be the way they want to be. Let go of all the expectations you have from yourself and others.

This is true on the terms of expectations. But not when it comes to personal boundaries, always be thoughtful that your excuse for being yourself is not harming someone else’s space. Be respectful to others.

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Real friendships

I learnt something new about friendship Today. Read the pictures and then read the below.

And if you are thinking I create content from everything that happens in my life. You are damn right.

I go through shit and share that with the world, so that everyone who reads won’t have to go through the same shit that I went through, because now they have wisdom that comes from learning my life lessons.

Once a friend tried to say that I create content on everything. I think they were jealous actually, of my creativity. I was with a shitty person, who supported me when I got an accidental injury. So all I did was trying to create a YouTube video, on how support helps someone mentally when they are not well. Now I was in pain because of the injury, overall that person also abused me overtime. But this friend should not have a problem with me creating real content. Because whatever shit I am going through, I am still making something that will motivate people and send out a healing message.

I felt guilty and never posted the video. I felt guilty that I should not write about people in my life, but now I don’t think so. I maintain their privacy, but whatever is my part of the story, it’s mine & I own it. And no one can snatch it away from me. Some people used to think that I write about them, now with time they know it’s all about me, my story, my lessons and healing others. Now I am not scared of being me.

So really people should not have a problem with how you create your content if it’s spreading out the right message. The people who stick with me through everything, they never mind if I am sharing something that I learnt from them. They are happy to contribute & be a part of something that heals others also.

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Is it LOVE or ATTACHMENT?

Till the day you give in to your fears or act according to your wounds, it’s attachment. The day you break free, it becomes love, because before that it’s all about ME, ME, ME.

It’s about yourself because you want the other person to adjust for you, you want the other person to wait for you till you complete your other priorities, you want society to understand your love before loving who you claim to love. Sometimes you don’t even want to confess your love because you are afraid of rejection, it will hurt your ego. You want the other person to understand, you want the other person to compromise, you want to be right, you want them to make you feel safe against your own insecurities, you want them to love you first, so that you won’t have to step up, so that you don’t have to fight your insecurities on your own. You don’t want to see them happy with anyone else you leave them alone anyway.

You want them to wait so that you can clear all other things in your life, before you give them back. You claim you want to bring balance, but for that also you want the other person to be patient and do your job. Where’s the balance now? You have all these high expectations of them, but what about their basic needs.

Till the day everything is about yourself, it’s attachment, it’s not love. Love does not give in to fears, love is not selfish. Love frees, love teaches love, but it also teaches to fight against everything else, all barriers, to keep that love by your side. Love does not want something in return, it surrenders.

When your love becomes unconditional, it becomes free, free of opinions, free of limitations, free of fears, free of everything else. Once everyone can see it’s unconditional, no opinion can interfere anyway. It becomes free, it surrenders. True love is surrender to the feeling of love and to the one you love.

So is it love? Ask yourself.

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The most important factor for happy relationship is Boundaries.

Some say it takes trust, some say respect, some say unconditional love.

But how would you know how much trust means trust and how much respect means respect for the other person. That’s where boundaries are important.

Unconditional love, people get an idea of selfless love, let the other person do whatever he/she wants, I will keep loving. Can this really work? Another person can exploit your boundaries and expect you to love unconditionally.

True love is when you learn that having boundaries is a part of unconditional love. Not having boundaries is like betraying yourself, not being true to yourself. Can you actually give true love, when you are coming from a place where you are not in 100% alignment with yourself. To be one with anything else, you need to be one with yourself first.

[oneness]Boundaries are the secret of happy relationships, both platonic & non-platonic. Through all these years, when my life was falling apart, the relationship that still sustained are the ones who know how to respect boundaries. Happy relationships are the secret to a happy life.

P.S. Learn the difference between oneness & boundaries. I learnt this from Teal swan.

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It’s always the victim who has the power to end the abuse

Wondering why I think so?

The abuser is always a person who does not even know how to regulate his/her own emotions. They can not end the cycle of abuse, never. It always takes the victim to make a decision, once the victim decides, he/she can end the cycle. How?

If with a Narcissist, do not give them what they want. Don’t give them drama. If already past that stage, start showing them the mirror, the Narcissists, they fear coming face to face with their own reality.

(Showing a mirror to Narcissist or walking away, both are a form of compassion for them. Just do not engage in the drama and give them a chance of self-reflection. I know it never works, they never are able to self reflect so much, but maybe they start seeing the truth one by one, victim by victim for their whole life. And probably when they get old, they can recall what they did.)

If it’s not a Narcissist, only a toxic person, don’t engage. Don’t engage with them. They are people who are in so much pain inside, that they want to create the same reality outside. They become self-destructive.

If it’s a person who has some kind of power over you, legally. Walk away (Yes, it sounds like an escape, but read it till the end). Now you would say but then I want to prove myself, my worth, I want to take back everything that they have damaged, my image, recognition everything. But no, you do not engage. You trying to prove your worth keeps you in a cycle, that’s what they want. Instead, you acknowledge your worth on your own and leave. Move on to next phase of your life, prove yourself there and these people will get their lessons on their own.

Walking away is a power, it’s such a big power in itself. When you walk away, you show them the difference between you and them. That you are not willing to waste time on these stupid games. Always remember, walking away is power. It will save you from a lot of misery.

Take back your power, do not put your worth in their hands, do not define your worth by how they treat you. Do not wait for them to accept your worth and treat you right. You are worthy, on your own. You are an amazing fantabulous person, just as you are. Never forget your own worth.

And you never know, if you are strong enough to take this decision, maybe God will smile and give you a chance to prove yourself, just before you are about to leave. I got that chance & I love my decisions now.

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Only insecure people try to make others feel insecure

A confident person will never try to make anyone feel insecure, only an insecure person will.

I dealt with so many toxic people that this became my Mantra, I have it by heart. As soon as someone tries to put me down or make me feel bad about myself, I look at them and I see their value in their own eyes. It takes me minutes to realise and I don’t stay in the low state for long. Time & experiences make you tough.

Always have a bigger perspective, a person who tries to make anyone feel insecure, is insecure himself. Anyone who demotivates you, doesn’t appreciate your effort, criticizes you, is doing it because probably he can never even put the effort that you are putting in.

Have this by heart, never think twice on those negative voices, take minutes to self-reflect and learn if there is a possibility to improve, otherwise leave the situation there. Do not waste time arguing with stupid people, set boundaries and leave.

They ain’t paying your bills, you ain’t gotta pay them your mind. ✌🏻 Don’t take that shit & own who you are.

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Toxic People Cluster Together

Misery loves company and so do toxic people love each other’s company.

All my Narcissists always came with groups, I thought I should try to explain to the manipulated people about what’s happening. But the truth is always known already. There is always only a mear numbers of people who are manipulated, others stay in the dynamic by choice. Why, they enjoy other’s misery anyway. This is why there is never a need to explain yourself, the right people will stick to you anyway.

Always stay away from toxic people, because all they gonna do it try make you also miserable, so that they can someone like them. People who don’t give you anything in terms of love, care, time and attention. But only take, take and take, are not right for you. They will always let you down in long term. Some will be with you because they envy you, some because of your status & money, some to steal your shine, some to smother you, some to make you feel bad about yourself.

If you surround yourself with people who are all miserable, you will become like them one day. These are the people who try to bring you down when you start o grow. Always choose right people for yourself. It’s better to be alone than being with wrong influence. You become like the top 5 people who you spend your most time with.

Thank you for reading it till the end. If you have any queries, let me know in the comment section.

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Change for a better life

It’s 21st century and in the hustle of this busy life, we have all lost the kid inside us, our purity, love and kindness.

The only thing every human being wants is not money, not fame, but only inner peace and happiness. To be happy you need to love yourself first. For that you need to understand that you should not seek love, in fact you should be love.

1. Love yourself

Nothing can be more attractive when you love yourself. Love spreads like fragrance of a perfume. When you love yourself, you become that perfume. You don’t need to put efforts to love anyone then. It just spreads in form of good vibes.

2. Learn to forgive yourself

After all you are a human being, everyone makes mistakes. Don’t be a victim of your own guilt. You are here on earth to live and learn like everyone else. As far as you keep learning from your mistakes and never repeat them, it’s fine. First, you need to free yourself from any guilt then only you can be a happy soul and spread love

3. Come what may

Don’t be scared of obstacles, understand that is the path. It’s life, and it’s full of problems, everyday you have to face a new problem. But no problem is bigger than you. Don’t stop working, look at the solutions, not at the problem and one day you will achieve your goals.

What’s in the way, is the way”

4. Surround yourself with more people like you

It’s a scientific fact that everyone’s personality is affected by the 5 people, they spend most of their time with. Be it your family or friends or people at work. Your personality is going to be affected by them. Be positive within yourself and also surround yourself with more positive people.

You can’t change a person from negative to positive, the more you try, the weaker you become. The world is already full of negative people, at least you need to stay positive and calm.

5. Happiness is an inside job

Don’t depend on anything external to make you happy. Neither achievements, nor money or a person should be a reason for your happiness. Always focus on your inner peace.

6. Connect with nature

To do anything in life, you need energy. Only nature can give you that energy. Take early morning walks, watch sun sets, sit in a garden, water the plants, go travelling, take deep breaths in fresh air. Boost yourself up with positive energy.

7. Take control of your life

No one else than you knows where you stand in your life and your goals. Analyse and take action on your own. Listen to others but don’t follow them. Choose your priorities and act accordingly. People love to stop you from doing something they would do. At the same time they would underestimate your potential and tell you not to take a stand. Later on those are the people who will admire you for taking a stand. i.e. It’s only you who gets to choose your path, after all it’s your life.

8. Be active

A healthy body means healthy mind and leads a happy life. Go for morning walks, cycling or gym everyday. Try to eat healthy and drink water regularly. Do meditations, Yoga or workout whichever you like.

9. Read and learn

Learning never stops, at any age. Reading helps you learn about new aspects of life. It makes you smarter, reduces stress, helps prioritize goals.

10. Put time into your relationships

Always keep your emotional connections on priority like your family, partner and then friends. Those are the people who stand by you in your good times and bad times. They are your support system and you are their support system. Love makes everyone happy.

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