There’s a difference between playing the victim and actually being the victim. Truth hurts!!
Until the victims blames themselves for what happened to them, they can’t heal. The victim has to acknowledge that what happened to him/her, wasn’t her fault. And it was someone else’s fault and also say it on their face.
Speak your truth. Noone has the right to change your side of story.
Do you often call your friends and complain about how you don’t like your life much. It’s time to stop doing the same things over and over again, change your actions, change your thinking and hence change your life.
Acknowledge the fact that there is a choice. You have a choice to move if you don’t like where you are. Make that choice to change yourself, work deeply to understand life. Learn what it takes to be where you want to go, try and move.
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I learnt something new about friendship Today. Read the pictures and then read the below.
And if you are thinking I create content from everything that happens in my life. You are damn right.
I go through shit and share that with the world, so that everyone who reads won’t have to go through the same shit that I went through, because now they have wisdom that comes from learning my life lessons.
Once a friend tried to say that I create content on everything. I think they were jealous actually, of my creativity. I was with a shitty person, who supported me when I got an accidental injury. So all I did was trying to create a YouTube video, on how support helps someone mentally when they are not well. Now I was in pain because of the injury, overall that person also abused me overtime. But this friend should not have a problem with me creating real content. Because whatever shit I am going through, I am still making something that will motivate people and send out a healing message.
I felt guilty and never posted the video. I felt guilty that I should not write about people in my life, but now I don’t think so. I maintain their privacy, but whatever is my part of the story, it’s mine & I own it. And no one can snatch it away from me. Some people used to think that I write about them, now with time they know it’s all about me, my story, my lessons and healing others. Now I am not scared of being me.
So really people should not have a problem with how you create your content if it’s spreading out the right message. The people who stick with me through everything, they never mind if I am sharing something that I learnt from them. They are happy to contribute & be a part of something that heals others also.
It took me some time to understand how people take entrepreneurs. Yes, I’m still building a foundation for my business and it is all about service. But it’s a service to humanity and God, not some egotistical person who tries to think that he is my boss coz he is paying me. I have a skill, which will help you.
Everyone saw how that guy was criticising for me shutting him down, as if he is the only person who can give a review ( that too without taking any services). I have been doing energy cleansing every day and that keeps my mind peaceful, so that day I read his message again by the evening.
He literally gave feedback like he is thrashing some customer care person. No offence to this profession, they make our life easy, actually, this guy doesn’t respect anyone who is a helper or providing any kind of service. Someone working at a 9 to 5 can have a fear of losing their job but definitely not an entrepreneur. Our first step started by taking a risk. I definitely started it to have power over everything I do.
Feedbacks affect our work, but if you know most of your clients are happy, you don’t need to give a damn about these people who try to make themselves feel significant by thrashing someone.
So entrepreneurs, value your own work and don’t let anyone put you down. You aren’t only customer support, but also the leader, manager, planner, creator, executer, also the boss.
So whichever way you like to think about me, in my own eyes I am always the CEO of my own company, and here we don’t tolerate BS.
The abuser is always a person who does not even know how to regulate his/her own emotions. They can not end the cycle of abuse, never. It always takes the victim to make a decision, once the victim decides, he/she can end the cycle. How?
If with a Narcissist, do not give them what they want. Don’t give them drama. If already past that stage, start showing them the mirror, the Narcissists, they fear coming face to face with their own reality.
(Showing a mirror to Narcissist or walking away, both are a form of compassion for them. Just do not engage in the drama and give them a chance of self-reflection. I know it never works, they never are able to self reflect so much, but maybe they start seeing the truth one by one, victim by victim for their whole life. And probably when they get old, they can recall what they did.)
If it’s not a Narcissist, only a toxic person, don’t engage. Don’t engage with them. They are people who are in so much pain inside, that they want to create the same reality outside. They become self-destructive.
If it’s a person who has some kind of power over you, legally. Walk away (Yes, it sounds like an escape, but read it till the end). Now you would say but then I want to prove myself, my worth, I want to take back everything that they have damaged, my image, recognition everything. But no, you do not engage. You trying to prove your worth keeps you in a cycle, that’s what they want. Instead, you acknowledge your worth on your own and leave. Move on to next phase of your life, prove yourself there and these people will get their lessons on their own.
Walking away is a power, it’s such a big power in itself. When you walk away, you show them the difference between you and them. That you are not willing to waste time on these stupid games. Always remember, walking away is power. It will save you from a lot of misery.
Take back your power, do not put your worth in their hands, do not define your worth by how they treat you. Do not wait for them to accept your worth and treat you right. You are worthy, on your own. You are an amazing fantabulous person, just as you are. Never forget your own worth.
And you never know, if you are strong enough to take this decision, maybe God will smile and give you a chance to prove yourself, just before you are about to leave. I got that chance & I love my decisions now.