Judgements

First of all, I want everyone to understand that me and my Twinflame both have been facing Narcissistic abuse from people who don’t want us to be together. Generally, spiritual people, psychics and tarot readers like to use the word “Karmic” for Narcissists and Narcissistic people. You do have Karma with Karmics but it doesn’t mean they are not abusive. In our case, the third party Karmic is a full-blown Narcissist with Psychopathic tendencies. We both have been abused in all ways possible, scapegoated, talked about, by these abusers so that we will both give up on each other and this Twinflame connection. They try to create trust issues between us. Your Twinflame never intends to hurt you, unless they are manipulated by others. Every tower moment is brought because of these Karmics, their lies and manipulation. But spirit makes sure to use every tower in the favour of Twinflame connection.

Anyone who thinks, in a third party situation, DF chases DM. They are wrong. Runners run into the third party situations and Karmics chase DM, not the DF. It’s all rumours. Because in my case, I go towards my DM every time to school him, with my Queen of swords mode that every DM is scared of. Do hell with chasing😂😂 It’s because all DF’s know intuitively what their DM thinks and feels for them, we don’t need validation from our DM about it.

If I was in a chasing vibration, the karmic connection won’t have manifested itself. When my DM ran, he ran into someone like him, codependent, where you think you are not whole on your own. “Chasing” is a word that can be used to describe a lot of things. Karmic knows it’s a Twinflame connection so she uses the word very well, when it comes to spreading gossip. Thanks to people who describe Twinflame connection as just a runner-chaser dynamic. Twinflame connections have many more dynamics and every Twinflame couple’s journey is unique. When trauma bonding happens in my Twinflame connection, I become an overgiver, not setting boundaries, giving my power away, that’s all. I still don’t need to chase him to love me. Love is always there, even when we don’t talk, even when are in no contact, even when a timeline shift happens. And if I am not setting boundaries with my TF, soon I learn the lesson to take back my power too. When I stand in my power, it breaks the trauma bond in the Karmic connection as well.

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Re-evaluate your friendships everyday

One of my oldest writes. Triggered quite a lot of people that time, though I didn’t realise then that they are fake.

How to recognise toxic friends? That friend who puts a status when you share your failure with them and gets competitive at your success. Who always talk about your not-so-good moments to others and rarely your qualities. People who always find something to blame you for or always make you feel invalidated. Who are probably never there for you, but you are always, no reciprocity. Friends who get jealous, compare your life with theirs, criticize you, discourage you when you talk about your dreams. Definitely wrong types of friends.

I filtered people in my life for quite a good amount of time, say 2 years and I know how healthy friendship feels like. Unhealthy friendship is one of those things that you don’t realise until you experience something better.

Why is it important to cut toxic people out of life? You become like the 5 closest people in your life, so you need to stay away from misery. If you are investing your time in the wrong people, you will have less time for the right people. The right people are those who will always work on themselves & all the issues, to meet you halfway in any kind of relationship. Friendship is an important one, because this is the only relation we get to choose completely by ourselves.

It takes a lot of courage to cut contacts with people, but once you are through the process, you will feel more loved, excited about life & end up thanking yourself for doing it, loving yourself more.

I literally started with feeling guilty of giving up on people, but now I am proud of my decisions. But what if I didn’t give up on them? What if I gave up on myself??
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So give yourself permission to become your truest authentic self. Your journey starts with choosing people who align with it.

Quote inspired by Joel Osteen.

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