I have been learning this lesson in last few days and this describes it perfectly.
My spirit guides have been sending me messages through tarot this week and it has been healing me so much. ❤️
Your vibrational match is people who respect you, who love you for who you are, who know your your worth, who provide the unconditional love that you provide to yourself, not only what you provide to them. Also who provide a room for you to grow and grow with you, spiritually, personally, etc. at all levels.
If that makes you feel like I am looking for soulmates, you are right and yes, this is exactly what I get from my friends and family, they should be my soulmates.
I learnt something new about friendship Today. Read the pictures and then read the below.
And if you are thinking I create content from everything that happens in my life. You are damn right.
I go through shit and share that with the world, so that everyone who reads won’t have to go through the same shit that I went through, because now they have wisdom that comes from learning my life lessons.
Once a friend tried to say that I create content on everything. I think they were jealous actually, of my creativity. I was with a shitty person, who supported me when I got an accidental injury. So all I did was trying to create a YouTube video, on how support helps someone mentally when they are not well. Now I was in pain because of the injury, overall that person also abused me overtime. But this friend should not have a problem with me creating real content. Because whatever shit I am going through, I am still making something that will motivate people and send out a healing message.
I felt guilty and never posted the video. I felt guilty that I should not write about people in my life, but now I don’t think so. I maintain their privacy, but whatever is my part of the story, it’s mine & I own it. And no one can snatch it away from me. Some people used to think that I write about them, now with time they know it’s all about me, my story, my lessons and healing others. Now I am not scared of being me.
So really people should not have a problem with how you create your content if it’s spreading out the right message. The people who stick with me through everything, they never mind if I am sharing something that I learnt from them. They are happy to contribute & be a part of something that heals others also.
One of my oldest writes. 18 May 2018. Triggered quite a lot of people that time, though I didn’t realise then that they are fake.
How to recognise toxic friends? That friend who puts a status when you share your failure with them and gets competitive at your success. Who always talk about your not-so-good moments to others and rarely your qualities. People who always find something to blame you for or always make you feel invalidated. Who are probably never there for you, but you are always, no reciprocity. Friends who get jealous, compare your life with theirs, criticize you, discourage you when you talk about your dreams. Definitely wrong types of friends.
I filtered people in my life for quite a good amount of time, say 2 years and I know how healthy friendship feels like. Unhealthy friendship is one of those things that you don’t realise until you experience something better.
Why is it important to cut toxic people out of life? You become like the 5 closest people in your life, so you need to stay away from misery. If you are investing your time in the wrong people, you will have less time for the right people. The right people are those who will always work on themselves & all the issues, to meet you halfway in any kind of relationship. Friendship is an important one, because this is the only relation we get to choose completely by ourselves.
It takes a lot of courage to cut contacts with people, but once you are through the process, you will feel more loved, excited about life & end up thanking yourself for doing it, loving yourself more.
I literally started with feeling guilty of giving up on people, but now I am proud of my decisions. But what if I didn’t give up on them? What if I gave up on myself?? . So give yourself permission to become your truest authentic self. Your journey starts with choosing people who align with it.
The Pretty Smart Techie 