After I filed papers in the first company, I was doing better everyday, but I had the stress about finding a job again. When I took a month’s break, I was doing better. When I joined the next job, I was excited to finally start the working again. But that year I lost a lot of friendships, it was some 25-30 friends that I cut off. And if you include normal friends, work colleagues and old work colleagues, the count had was 60.
First month in that job was fine. I had also learnt to manage energetic boundaries with toxic people. Whatever happened in 2018, gave me clarity that I’m an empath and I need to learn how to set boundaries. But soon they started bullying me. And then I started feeling the depression again. It was a different issue but everything reminded me of the past, that I was trying to get away from. Everyday I used to ask myself why are these people jealous of me? I have nothing left, my love is gone, then the humiliation that I faced with harassment. Everyday coming back from office, all I could think about was the last year. I had so much anxiety that I was hiding. All the time I would keep shrinking inside and no one would even get a clue. I had slowly started hating the city. Big cities and selfish people. Generally, people block their heart chakra after heartbreak in romantic relationships, but mine got blocked because of the harassment.
Life is a journey. Some days you are gonna meet people who share the same path as you. Some days you are gonna meet people who don’t.
Some days you enjoy the present, some other days you plan the future, some days you miss the past. Some days you will find the life to be very easy, other days to be so tough that you want to give up. It’s always going to be two steps forward, one step backwards.
People who don’t deal with their own shit, try to put others down. Only insecure people make others feel insecure.
So if you ever come across anyone who tries to rub off their shit on you, don’t take the bait. That’s all. What they are doing has already defined what they’re. You don’t need to prove anything because if you know swimming, you know swimming. It doesn’t have to be proved.
Lisa Nicols says “I have nothing to hide, nothing to defend, nothing to protect”. This is the best definition of Self-love.
P.S. changed what I wrote earlier because I didn’t find it resonating with me.
When you start shining in your authenticity. Some people start to admire you, but some people try to steal your shine. Like they try to paint the bulb black so it’s 70 Watts shine reduces to 40 Watts shine. But what if you keep turning it up to 100W then 200W. They are going to be like “oh, it’s too bright, it’s too bright, turn it down”. But when you don’t turn it down, they change their way.
When you have more uninvited hidden followers than official followers. They are haters but also the first fans.
I even have proof about this.
Who noticed first when I wanted to start YouTube channel? Haters. Who noticed first when I came out of depression? Haters. Who noticed first my skills in painting? Haters. Who noticed first when I was changing my career? Haters. Who were my first customers when I started my own business? Haters.
Always be grateful for whatever comes your way, no one will teach you more lessons than a hater.
P.S. This is something I had written long back but always hesitated to post it on the blog. I learnt this concept from one female YouTuber. But I don’t remember her name now.
It took me some time to understand how people take entrepreneurs. Yes, I’m still building a foundation for my business and it is all about service. But it’s a service to humanity and God, not some egotistical person who tries to think that he is my boss coz he is paying me. I have a skill, which will help you.
Everyone saw how that guy was criticising for me shutting him down, as if he is the only person who can give a review ( that too without taking any services). I have been doing energy cleansing every day and that keeps my mind peaceful, so that day I read his message again by the evening.
He literally gave feedback like he is thrashing some customer care person. No offence to this profession, they make our life easy, actually, this guy doesn’t respect anyone who is a helper or providing any kind of service. Someone working at a 9 to 5 can have a fear of losing their job but definitely not an entrepreneur. Our first step started by taking a risk. I definitely started it to have power over everything I do.
Feedbacks affect our work, but if you know most of your clients are happy, you don’t need to give a damn about these people who try to make themselves feel significant by thrashing someone.
So entrepreneurs, value your own work and don’t let anyone put you down. You aren’t only customer support, but also the leader, manager, planner, creator, executer, also the boss.
So whichever way you like to think about me, in my own eyes I am always the CEO of my own company, and here we don’t tolerate BS.
One of my Gurus taught me to work hard in silence, let your success make the noise.
He was my English teacher and really worked hard on my writing and speaking the language. I topped the class, but he appreciated me for always being humble to all my classmates, and I learnt that is the right way to live .