Not everyone is a twin flame. Twin flames are high vibrational souls who come here with a Spiritual mission. A lot of Starseeds / Lightworkers choose to come as twin flames. Twin flame connection is such a high vibrational connection that if there’s any low vibrational energy which has not been released, both of the twins have to go into separation. Everything is divinely guided, supported and protected. Archangel Michael looks after every twin flame.
A lot of times one person is awakened before another, and so separation happens which gives space for the second person also to heal and awaken. The time given is for both of them to love themselves, heal codependency if any, clear past energies, clear lingering toxic energies from external people or any type of society imposed limitations. Spirit supports in releasing anything negative that tries to invade the connection.
People often try to label truth as criticism. If you are doing something wrong, you are. No matter if your subconscious intentions are exposed to others or not.
Even if everybody says it’s right, it can be wrong. Others might even be saying it’s right coz they can get some favour by saying so.
Sometimes when I try to tell people what they are doing wrong, only for their betterment. They try to project their insecurities on me and tell me that I am just criticizing and not supporting their new start.
If the new start is not built on a strong foundation, it’s going to fall. I am just trying to give you guidance for your own good. Anyone with a good heart and goodwill would do. But people label it as criticism.
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One more type of people who I encounter is those who criticize me and my work unnecessarily and try to say that I am not open to criticism. Again there is a difference between criticism and truth. If you are projecting your insecurities on me, trying to harm my brand or anything, intentionally because my determination threatens your ego. It doesn’t mean what you say is true.
Even if everyone thinks you are wrong, you might be doing something that exactly what this world needs. Starseeds can’t fit with the mass consciousness on earth, because they came here to transform it into a higher evolving consciousness. Lightworkers carry the light codes to the new consciousness that is waiting to be ignited, hence they resonate only with higher vibrations.
P.S. Be free of opinions, follow your heart’s calling.
Let’s talk about a very common manipulation tactic that I observe often in Bangalore/metros.
People are educated so they need some advanced technique. When you meet someone new, suppose while getting shared cab or maybe at a grocery store, on a trip or just somewhere random. A lot of time same gender people, who start talking randomly coz they saw you with no boundaries. And in some time they are like we must be soulmates/soul sisters/ soul family etc.
That’s a Narcissistic person trying to score new people/supply who can believe in their false image.
Beware of the trap. Soon they will show their true self which will not match with the first interaction you had.
Just like there are false twin flames, there are fake soulmates too.
You don’t have to think like “oh I am unhealed, so my soulmates should be unhealed ones too.” Nop, that does not happen. When soulmates enter your life, either something magical happens or you have a family type of vibe with them, or they might teach you something to put you on the right path.
Also soulmates come with spiritual love to help you grow spiritually, and you know it’s a different feeling than you generally have, even with friends. Soulmates are a lot of times people who were once your spirit guides or your closed ones in past life. This is why people keep talking about past life, when you meet a soulmate sometimes there might be past life karma needing to be resolved initially. But karma with a karmic account is a lot different than karma with a soulmate. With soulmates, karma is only to teach each other lessons that you had agreed to, before coming here, with compassion & unconditional love, not by abuse like Narcissists.
Don’t trust anyone who just says they are your soulmate. Often jealous, abusive toxic people use this manipulation tactic and soon they start hitting your self-esteem, violating boundaries, identify theft, mirroring etc. Always wait for some time for the person to reveal if they are really your soulmate.
Toxic people try to find the happiness externally so they look out for people with such labels.
Fear of abandonment is the first thing which is common in both Narcissists and codependent Empaths. It keeps them both stuck in a toxic cycle.
Codependents take abuse only because of their fear of abandonment. Narcissists manipulate people, so when they sense that their mask is falling off and the victim can see it, they escalate the abuse.
Fear of abandonment makes people not trust, not be in touch with their emotions and run away at the slightest chance of abandonment. Where it gets difficult is maybe there is no one even thinking about abandoning the person, but they will keep reacting to their own fear and ruin a stable relationship. It causes a lot of inner turmoil to accept the truth.
This fear makes you feel like even good things are too good to be true. It’s an inner child wound and most of the time it comes from childhood trauma. The person needs to do inner child work, work on self-love and improve the self-talk, replace negative thoughts with rational thoughts & positive affirmations. And sometimes let that fear become real, let someone abandon you, process all your emotions that come after it for once, the fear will be gone. Time heals everything.
I know it’s easier said than done. But a temporary pain can heal your fears for a lifetime. You stayed with this fear for decades and it doesn’t feel good to live in fear. Let’s overcomes it for once and enjoy a happy emotional life.
All the best for your self-love and healing journey. Healing is selfless deed and Universe appreciates & supports everyone who is trying to heal themselves. When you heal, blessings will soon be revealed. Sending you love and light XOXOXO
When you have more uninvited hidden followers than official followers. They are haters but also the first fans.
I even have proof about this.
Who noticed first when I wanted to start YouTube channel? Haters. Who noticed first when I came out of depression? Haters. Who noticed first my skills in painting? Haters. Who noticed first when I was changing my career? Haters. Who were my first customers when I started my own business? Haters.
Always be grateful for whatever comes your way, no one will teach you more lessons than a hater.
P.S. This is something I had written long back but always hesitated to post it on the blog. I learnt this concept from one female YouTuber. But I don’t remember her name now.
Hurting someone’s ego is not a bad thing, not a sin.
Whole life people have tried to abuse me because I challenged their entitled ego. It is really a bad thing to hurt someone’s ego. Or is that about self-respect? Well, entitled ego makes people fake, deceitful, bullies, abusers, manipulators, so I don’t think hurting someone’s ego is a bad thing.
You hurt someone’s ego, i.e. in psychological terms, you cause them an ego injury. So now they think of you as an enemy and want to abuse you to make your life difficult to take revenge. They blame you for hurting them. Wait, what was it that got hurt? ego or self-respect?
Entitled egos are meant to be broken, even everyone’s ego is meant to be broken, at least if you want to grow spiritually and become a self-fulfilled person. Whether you feel inferior or superior, both are coming from a place of ego.
Ego is must to be transcended, it’s a part of awakening. When you shed your false beliefs about yourself, old belief systems, what image society put on you to carry, what opinions and insecurities they put on you, everything needs to be shed, in order to achieve awakening. It’s a painful process, but when you learn to endure pain, you come out stronger. All these things will she like layers of an onion, what will come out at the end, will be your truest, most authentic self, your higher self, your soul.
So next time a Narcissistic toxic person goes “you are hurting me”, throwing toddler tantrums, for causing them an ego injury, for showing them they are not what they think they are. Don’t let their reactions affect you.
It’s the teacher’s day here and I think it’s time to claim something. When I am coaching you through tarot or writing or listening to your problems, what I need back is respect and reciprocated energy. No offence to anyone, but some people don’t understand this concept.
I am always ready to help for free if someone can reciprocate the energy. Money/ time /genuine appreciation is also a form of energy.
People think if they pay healers money they are above us. But they forget that we help them, we save them from months and years of mental stress and we take their negative energies and transmute it into positive. We try to put them on the path to self-reflection, healing and growth.
I hope now everyone gets who is giving more and who deserves more. So please respect what we do and don’t try to act like our boss.
People still respect Babas more than spiritual teachers, because they believe in superstition more than faith. Healers show you what you need to heal, where you need to self reflect, what your wounds are, what your life purpose is, what your karma is, what you need to change about yourself, how you can grow, they remind you of your own power, they put you on the right path to heal your ancestral trauma, they teach you self love and the meaning of life. But still, healers are taken for granted.
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I also want to take time to thank all other healers, earth angels, Lightworkers, tarot readers, Psychics, Spiritual teachers, life coaches who have always helped me through this journey to transform myself into my higher self. It was not possible without all your help.
Let us all Lightworkers thanks our star system team, spirit guides, angels, archangels and ancestors, for always showing us the way when we can’t see the light. They give us unconditional love, help us heal and grow, they provide us protection and support.
I love my spirit team and very grateful for them. Everytime I see a temporary spirit guide leave, I feel a sense of loss but I wish best for their next endeavours. Thanks to all my spirit guides and angels who have helped me all the way through this chaos, we are a team and I will never forget that.
People have been judging me for a few weeks now and I learnt to not give a shit about it, AGAIN.
People who think defending yourself is bad, people who think being in your power is bad, people who think knowing your worth is bad. What you hate about others, says a lot about you.
When you hate someone for speaking their own truth, or maybe sometimes for showing you your truth, it shows how much you try to hide your own truth and to run away from it.
People who you think can become your friends, start falling out after sometime. You thought they could be your friend, but they can’t. That’s why I like to take few months before I get to see the real them, people manage to hide their real self in starting.
Also, people who think I am closed off because I am not open to new people. I am fulfilled with my connections, family and friendships at this time.
People get attached to Lightworkers, because they want to have a happy healthy caring person in their life, it’s like lightworkers attract people like moths to a flame, because people want to feed off of our energy. If I have space for only 4-5 friends in my life, but some 50 people want me in their life. And I start making room to take everyone in, where I don’t even need them, only they need me, that would be a great mess for everyone.
This is what all lightworkers need to know, people not only want to have you in their life, but they hold onto you for dear life, and that can be very suffocating for someone who practices unconditional love. Learn to say no when you just don’t want something, it’s not always necessary to give a reason.
So everyone knows I know many Narcissists from my past and with time I have been able to observe them.
They are lazy.. they are damn lazy.
They would tell me not to learn a new thing or try my hands on it, coz I am already doing a lot of things. They even call me fickle minded. Someone first please tell me in which scripture it is mentioned to only have one talent, not more. Why do people go like oh, you are already doing too many things, why would you do one more. It’s simple, I want to do it. My brain wants to expand.
Then after trying to tell you not to do something or putting obstacles, they go do the same thing. Well, what is it now? You trying to steal my ideas?廊
So this is a repeated story with all the Narcs. Some moved to writing, others to blogging, healthy food blogging, motivational speaker, craft, art, Youtubing, makeup artists. So in three years, I had gained a lot of competitors around me. Not like I compete with anyone, but they wanna compete with me.
But I don’t bother much. Why? Because they always give up, they freaking give up. They can’t keep doing the same thing with determination for long. Narc or toxic, they start doing it out of jealousy. They get some admiration, some likes, some ego boost and they think they did it better. So alright, time to chill. And then after some time they get jealous of something else, someone else. They pick up another hobby & the story continues.
On serious note, if you ever deal with a Narc boss. You only have to do one thing. Stick to your plan, work hard, achieve your goals and show them that you don’t give up. Coz, today they may look like having control over you, playing with your self-esteem. But after sometime, they will anyways get bored, but you won’t. You will still keep putting the hard work. They can only do manipulation tactics to distract you, but you can achieve whatever you want. Coz all Empaths have a growth mindset, they are intelligent and they don’t give up.
Boundaries should be there to protect us, but it should not be a wall. Boundaries are where you define what works and what doesn’t work for you in a relationship. But some people forget boundaries, and use walls.
Walls come from the fear of abandonment, rejection, childhood wounds or past hurt. They make you closed off with a block in the heart chakra. Your wounds don’t let you show the real you, vulnerable you to those you love. Yes, you can still love but you just won’t express it. Because you are emotionally closed off.
Some people, because of child abuse they learnt it very early in life, to never let their guard down, because they don’t feel safe. Wounds make you fear that, if someone saw the real you, they might leave you. But how would you know, until you try.
You need to find the right people, who respect your boundaries and be open with them.
I know someone could still have fears, but let me tell you something. I am an empath, I know how the smallest things can hurt us and that’s why we need to let people know what hurts us, otherwise, they will never know. But at the same time, I don’t keep myself closed off with people who I love and care for. Those who care back for me and allow a safe space for me to open up, know all parts of me.
So what you have is a wall or a boundary? Being a lightworker I am always reminded to first protect my own energy and then be giving to someone else. To protect yourself and to feel safe, you need people who make you feel accepted when you show your vulnerability. To protect yourself does not mean to always keep a mask on, so that nobody would ever hurt you.
People who have been through abuse need a lot of compassion from their loved ones. We need to make them feel safe. They deserve to hear it from us that “we don’t care what people did to them in the past, we just want to know the real them and love their real self”.
And when they open up, we need to have Empathy. Child abuse plays with your head, sometimes they would blame themselves for things that they weren’t even responsible for. We need to show them what love is.
Before you do anything externally, accept your loved ones for who they are, the real them.
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