It’s time to get serious in life, to find that #determination for yourself.
If you want to be successful in your career, you need to work hard to achieve your #goals. You need to work on your mental health, you need to heal your past wounds, you need to make amends with people in your life and have a work-life balance. Every great person was made out of these qualities.
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Silent treatment is a tactic that all types of manipulators use, specially Narcissists.
I have been through months and years of silent treatment. It felt like I am trying to talk to a wall, but practice makes perfect. I got silent treatment so many times I became silent treatment proof and I think this is something that everyone should learn.
You need to train your mind from reacting to the silent treatment from the other person. For that, you need to master your self-talk. You have to remind yourself some simple points everytime it bothers you.
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1. Yes, I am addressing this topic because people copy me, my content everything.
2. It’s not just copying, it’s a Narcissistic behaviour called identity theft. But not this time, I am not losing my individuality for anyone anymore.
3. Those who copy others it creates Karma, in case if you are unaware.
So now we have a new breed of haters, who don’t try to copy one thing but try to seem multi-talented. I have multiple passions because I did learn each of it with hard work either in this life or a past life. I am not trying to be anyone else but just me.
People who copy, not just me, say anyone, first, they are creating karma trying to steal someone else’s destiny. Secondly, they are so dwelled in copying others that they never try to explore their own individuality. You can not steal anyone’s destiny, ever. God is watching. But you can end up losing the sight of your own destiny. And how much can you copy someone? One day you are going to be left with nothing more to copy. No matter how hard you try, you can’t be anyone else. I can’t even be a little less than my authentic self. I hope you get it.
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People often try to label truth as criticism. If you are doing something wrong, you are. No matter if your subconscious intentions are exposed to others or not.
Even if everybody says it’s right, it can be wrong. Others might even be saying it’s right coz they can get some favour by saying so.
Sometimes when I try to tell people what they are doing wrong, only for their betterment. They try to project their insecurities on me and tell me that I am just criticizing and not supporting their new start.
If the new start is not built on a strong foundation, it’s going to fall. I am just trying to give you guidance for your own good. Anyone with a good heart and goodwill would do. But people label it as criticism.
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One more type of people who I encounter is those who criticize me and my work unnecessarily and try to say that I am not open to criticism. Again there is a difference between criticism and truth. If you are projecting your insecurities on me, trying to harm my brand or anything, intentionally because my determination threatens your ego. It doesn’t mean what you say is true.
Even if everyone thinks you are wrong, you might be doing something that exactly what this world needs. Starseeds can’t fit with the mass consciousness on earth, because they came here to transform it into a higher evolving consciousness. Lightworkers carry the light codes to the new consciousness that is waiting to be ignited, hence they resonate only with higher vibrations.
P.S. Be free of opinions, follow your heart’s calling.
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I have been learning this lesson in last few days and this describes it perfectly.
My spirit guides have been sending me messages through tarot this week and it has been healing me so much. ❤️
Your vibrational match is people who respect you, who love you for who you are, who know your your worth, who provide the unconditional love that you provide to yourself, not only what you provide to them. Also who provide a room for you to grow and grow with you, spiritually, personally, etc. at all levels.
If that makes you feel like I am looking for soulmates, you are right and yes, this is exactly what I get from my friends and family, they should be my soulmates.
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People have been judging me for a few weeks now and I learnt to not give a shit about it, AGAIN.
People who think defending yourself is bad, people who think being in your power is bad, people who think knowing your worth is bad. What you hate about others, says a lot about you.
When you hate someone for speaking their own truth, or maybe sometimes for showing you your truth, it shows how much you try to hide your own truth and to run away from it.
People who you think can become your friends, start falling out after sometime. You thought they could be your friend, but they can’t. That’s why I like to take few months before I get to see the real them, people manage to hide their real self in starting.
Also, people who think I am closed off because I am not open to new people. I am fulfilled with my connections, family and friendships at this time.
People get attached to Lightworkers, because they want to have a happy healthy caring person in their life, it’s like lightworkers attract people like moths to a flame, because people want to feed off of our energy. If I have space for only 4-5 friends in my life, but some 50 people want me in their life. And I start making room to take everyone in, where I don’t even need them, only they need me, that would be a great mess for everyone.
This is what all lightworkers need to know, people not only want to have you in their life, but they hold onto you for dear life, and that can be very suffocating for someone who practices unconditional love. Learn to say no when you just don’t want something, it’s not always necessary to give a reason.
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Did you think empaths have to be scared of Narcissists? It can be the other way around, once the Empath learns their worth.
When empaths learn to love themselves, their self-worth, to discern between fear and intuition, to trust their intuition, to set boundaries and educate themselves over the same single pattern all the Narcissist use every time, they become empowered.
Start your journey today and in some months you will learn to set boundaries, that will itself save you from a lot of Narcs. Psychologists use the term “supply” for a Narcissist’s victims. A good supply is someone who helps the Narcissist inflate his/her ego, gives them validation that they need and lets them have control. If you know how to set boundaries, you will fail a Narcissist as a supply, in the starting few interactions.
Narcissists want to manipulate everyone to feed on their insecurities, so they observe the victim in starting stages of the relationship, that’s the love bombing stage. They will show themselves as the gratified immensely good person they are and how the world is always bad to them. An educated empath in turn, also observes the Narcissist in these starting stages.
If you learn to use your intuition right way and trust it, it will always protect you. I am an intuitive person too, my intuition always tries to tell me something whenever I need protection and I utilise my intuition.
If you educate yourself on Narcissism and your own behaviours that keep you stuck with Narcissists, you will soon learn to come out of the toxic cycle faster with less drama. All Narcissists are scared of being shown the mirror, of their false self-image being broken and educated empaths can do it. Show a Narcissist how inflated their ego is, and they are nowhere close to what they think of themselves.
Using boundaries, you learn to show a Narcissist that all the good qualities they see in themselves are yours, and all the insecurities that they try to project on you to harm your self-worth and keep you stuck in that fog, are all his/her insecurities.
The Narcissist then discards the supply and moves on to a new victim. If you don’t do this, they will anyways discard you after sucking you dry out of the love for yourself, when they have completely ruined you and stolen your identity, they leave, you are not useful to them anymore. They will leave you completely broken & shattered, when you are looking up to them, hoping that they will change. But they don’t change, they know you have sensed that they are not what they were pretending to be, so they leave. They give themselves excuse by saying that you are not as good, positive, energetic person now as they thought you were. Soon you will be out of sight – out of life for them like you never existed for them.
By having boundaries, you can instantly become Narc-repellent. Also, self-love is the only cure to Narcissistic abuse, one day you reach that level of self-love that your happiness comes first than the Narcissist’s, and you become an empowered empath.
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While writing this post I had one more title in mind -“Life of a person who has never felt jealousy”. Since being a lightworker I have never experienced jealousy.
This is one more reason that I am always focused on my growth and never comparing myself to others. This is a skill that helps me become a better version of myself every day.
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In the last three years of working on myself, 2 years went only in accepting that people can get so jealous and do something to harm others. It took me a long time to learn how does it feel to people who can feel jealousy. By the third year, I was already so traumatized that I used to be scared of people getting jealous. Because I just wanted peace, so I started dimming my light. That really put me into so much chaos, felt like God is asking me to stop doing it and then I decided to become my authentic self.
I have seen this whole my life ever since childhood, when I studying for IIT JEE, every time. Some negative people first admire you like anything. And then later they blame you for something stupid or probably enjoy your misfortune. This gives them relief from envy.
This is how big jealousy can get. I meet people every month who are highly jealous and try to trouble me or make fun of me or to traumatize me. They don’t help in time of need and be glad that I am facing some difficulty. This is the effect of jealousy, your soul level goes so low that you can not enjoy other soul being happy.
You can never be happy if you have jealousy in your heart. It burns you from the inside. It took me such a long time to understand all of this because I have never felt jealousy. Never to the point of trying to ruin someone’s life or wishing negative about them. Because I guess being an empath that’s not my nature or maybe because I see the big picture of life or could be because my soul power of purity is quite high relatively ( since I am a lightworker too).
Narcissists also try to make you feel jealous of themselves and others because jealousy is the core emotion they live in. They do it by showing off, trying to make you feel insecure and appreciating/flaunting other people around you. I have faced this so many times, every time I tried to analyse why this negative emotion of lack is rising and what it means, I reached only one conclusion that it’s a manipulation tactic and I didn’t have to do much to burry the emotion, it would just transform. Empaths can generate their own energy and transform the energy directed towards them. The only reason that I felt insecure to even a fraction was because I can absorb other’s energies or their projection upon me, it was never my original self.
Some people who are toxic, still ask me you would have done something, you deserved it, it was your mistake, why would so many people get jealous of only one person. Well I think it’s because probably I am a lightworker and knowing the fact that I got so harmed by others ( Lightworkers are meant to go to dark places, to spread light). Which in turn to a Narcissist will feel like why does she get so much attention from others, that also makes them jealous.
The right answer for why did people get jealous of me, I tried to figure it out for long time, I felt everyone was jealous of different things, but now I know the core. Jealousy is at the soul level, because I am a light being.
It’s not always positive attention that a Narcissist enjoys, but negative too. They want to be either the hero and grandiose or victim of everything, they don’t like someone else shining more than them.
Because I started connecting dots for whole my life, I started feeling like maybe it’s true that I am a lightworker. Since lightworkers have to deal with a lot of shit. Don’t worry my story is good. I always had little breakthroughs in some or the other form because I never gave up.
GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES.
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I’m going to explain what shadow work is. When you integrate back the hidden parts of yourself. Sometimes we hide good parts of ourselves or create false beliefs about ourselves, due to social conditioning when we are told that some of our values are wrong, we reject them too. All those parts of ourselves are rejected and that is called the shadow aspect of mind.
There was an English teacher in school, who I respected like anything and always tried to get his appreciation, never ever actually made me feel better. He would compliment other students for their potential, and not me for my growth.
In 8th standard, there was an inter-school debate. A senior student was supposed to go for it, but for some reason she backed out. So I was chosen to deliver a speech so tough. I didn’t know those words, I didn’t get time to memorize those 4 pages and now I think the speech was so long that it was actually out of the time limit that was given. So ultimately, me having not much experience on stage, with no one to encourage me at a new school and actually being under-qualified for the quality for speech that I was given. I was nervous, then I started shaking on the stage. I was scared, people were looking at me into the eye and I just completed as much part as I could and came back and cried.
So the thing is, I kept thinking for years that I have a stage fear, but actually I don’t have. It was just one more identity imposed on me by the wrong people, wrong circumstances, which was not my original self.
The teacher wanted to show his vocabulary skills instead of winning the debate and preparing the students for good. That’s what is called being self-centred. And I kept thinking for years that if he thinks I am not good, maybe I am not. But now look at me, you just completed reading the whole story & I have realised that I love being in the spotlight too.
Give up on the definitions of yourself that society has conditioned you to believe in.
Never let anyone tell you that you are not enough, you deserve less or you can not make it. You have all that it takes.
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This one actually I realised over time. People still try to see me as the person I was a year back or two years back or three years back. Sometimes even five to ten years back. I try to tell them that I have changed. It feels like I have been changing everyday, this is how a self-improvement journey looks like. You keep improving and there’s no end to it, there is always so much to explore about life.
Let’s take this the other way. I first thought of sharing my past on the blog and then I feel like there’s no need because people need to know the new me that I am now, not the old me. I have completely changed and this new person is so much better than what she used to be. I feel proud of her. I respect the old one because she fought through all of her struggles and never gave up. My past made me the person I am now, so I accept it. But now I am totally different.
There’s one more side of this coin. Sometimes we keep living in the sorrow of what happened years back and don’t realise how much time has passed by. Everyone needs to pull themselves back into the present. Life is always about the present, not about the past or future.
Don’t let your past define you. Your self-worth is not dependent on it. Always pull yourself back from the past, into the present.
Today is not the same as yesterday.
Tomorrow will not be the same as today.
Thank you for reading it till the end. If you have any queries, let me know in the comment section.
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