There’s a difference between playing the victim and actually being the victim. Truth hurts!!
Until the victims blames themselves for what happened to them, they can’t heal. The victim has to acknowledge that what happened to him/her, wasn’t her fault. And it was someone else’s fault and also say it on their face.
Speak your truth. Noone has the right to change your side of story.
Don’t try to fit in. If you are at a different level of being then most of society tell us. It’s actually better. Never sabotage yourself to become like everyone else.
If people be like ‘ what does she think of herself’. Just because you know your self-worth. It’s not your fault. Never stop being yourself for anyone’s opinion.
People who don’t deal with their own shit, try to put others down. Only insecure people make others feel insecure.
So if you ever come across anyone who tries to rub off their shit on you, don’t take the bait. That’s all. What they are doing has already defined what they’re. You don’t need to prove anything because if you know swimming, you know swimming. It doesn’t have to be proved.
Lisa Nicols says “I have nothing to hide, nothing to defend, nothing to protect”. This is the best definition of Self-love.
P.S. changed what I wrote earlier because I didn’t find it resonating with me.
When you start shining in your authenticity. Some people start to admire you, but some people try to steal your shine. Like they try to paint the bulb black so it’s 70 Watts shine reduces to 40 Watts shine. But what if you keep turning it up to 100W then 200W. They are going to be like “oh, it’s too bright, it’s too bright, turn it down”. But when you don’t turn it down, they change their way.
I get it now, why all twin flames try to confide with other Twin Flames because “normal” people can’t really understand it.
No one understands why you feel so much love when you feel love for that person, no one understands why you feel so much pain when you feel the pain.
I can only say I already remember almost 200+ years of love with the same person. What would you do if you remembered all of that? And this is only the part that my mind remembers, but my soul remembers of eternity. Most of the people can’t even love the same person for even a few years, I guess that’s why they can’t understand it.
All twin flames are high vibrational souls who come here with a spiritual mission. All Lightworkers always go through a lot of struggles, to overcome oppression and step into their true power. Twin flames also go through the same, but their journey is more complicated in context of the connection.
Divine Feminine (or Masculine whoever wakes up first), understands the connection completely and shows unconditional love towards their twin from starting. But the other twin comes in unhealed, who’s awakening is still due. Once the second twin also awakens to this connection, union happens. But what happens till union is separation.
People often try to label truth as criticism. If you are doing something wrong, you are. No matter if your subconscious intentions are exposed to others or not.
Even if everybody says it’s right, it can be wrong. Others might even be saying it’s right coz they can get some favour by saying so.
Sometimes when I try to tell people what they are doing wrong, only for their betterment. They try to project their insecurities on me and tell me that I am just criticizing and not supporting their new start.
If the new start is not built on a strong foundation, it’s going to fall. I am just trying to give you guidance for your own good. Anyone with a good heart and goodwill would do. But people label it as criticism.
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One more type of people who I encounter is those who criticize me and my work unnecessarily and try to say that I am not open to criticism. Again there is a difference between criticism and truth. If you are projecting your insecurities on me, trying to harm my brand or anything, intentionally because my determination threatens your ego. It doesn’t mean what you say is true.
Even if everyone thinks you are wrong, you might be doing something that exactly what this world needs. Starseeds can’t fit with the mass consciousness on earth, because they came here to transform it into a higher evolving consciousness. Lightworkers carry the light codes to the new consciousness that is waiting to be ignited, hence they resonate only with higher vibrations.
P.S. Be free of opinions, follow your heart’s calling.
When someone is in depression, the first thing they need to do is get their physical health in good condition. Physical and mental health are related to each other. Here I want to talk about some common things, adding negative effects of alcohol and the importance of going for the therapy.
You need to leave any type of alcohol, drugs or addictions.
Have a healthy sleep pattern, listen to calming music.
Start exercising, meditating, meditation can also help you with grief.
Avoid unhealthy eating habits like too much sugar, too much oil. Hormones which affect feelings of happiness and sadness, go into balance because of depression, and when you don’t eat right it further increases the problem. You can start having an issue like diabetes, thyroid, which further causes hormonal imbalances and that’s how depression becomes a difficult ailment to deal with.
Make a gratitude list every day, this helps you stop feeling as if life’s no good.
Have daily positive affirmations about yourself.
Talk to a friend, share your issues with your family. I know some people are actually insensitive enough to not understand your condition and that’s what scares you. But it doesn’t mean there are no people who know what listening to shame means. Learn to talk to the right people about your problems.
Journaling, write down your thoughts every day. Once it’s out on paper, it’s out of your mind too. You don’t have to think the same thing over and over again.
Get fresh air, travel, take a vacation for yourself, sometimes watch refreshing movies, relax.
Have some hobbies to keep yourself busy and relaxed, or do something you love to make yourself happy.
Focus on self-care and self-love.
When you are in depression, you can lose a sense of boundaries, some people become exploitative and some become suppressed. So have a clear mind about what behaviours you want to have and what behaviours you don’t.
Get a regular health check if possible, sometimes multivitamins can help. When I started changing my eating habits, my body was resisting so having multivitamins only for 20 days helped me a lot. I could feel the difference in my health.
Don’t try to escape your problems, with too much work, too much alcohol, too much gaming, too much dating, too many movies, too many desserts, toxic positivity etc.
Last but not least, get a therapist. Therapy really helps you identify your issues and work through them. A listening counsellor can actually help you with your shadow work. You do not need to worry about how they will treat you, it’s a therapist’s job to make you feel comfortable to talk about your problems. They do it gradually over sessions, slowly trying to help you see your problems, just like peeling layers of an Onion, one by one.
In psychology, there is a term “transference”. When you talk to a therapist, even surround yourself with wise people. You learn emotionally healthy behaviours, setting boundaries and decision making through how they deal with their problems. That’s why getting therapy always works. You learn a lot of rational thinking behaviours from your therapist too. Choose a good therapist, you can easily search online and find a therapist with good ratings. A right therapist will try their best to not put you on unnecessary medicines.
Some people are unaware but depressed for their whole life, because they were never taught – how to regulate their emotions and thoughts. May be these facts will help you understand the importance of having good emotional intelligence.
P.S. I was dealing with depression myself, till a few months back. And I tried to share everything that I learnt with my depression. Please give it a read and share across. If not you, someone around you could be dealing with it. Awareness is all it takes.
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