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Never seek validation from people about your own story

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This is a raw and straight forward write. I am so freaking tired of people telling me that I was never abused and it’s all just in my head.

Really!! Did I do all the healing work and forgive all my abusers and turned my pain into creativity so this pain doesn’t go outward into the world, only to hear that nothing ever happened.

Every time I tried to speak up and seek help that I am being bullied, mobbed, abused, used, misused. I was told that I am overthinking, I have a complex, I have a victim mentality, I am a difficult, negative, toxic person, its a conflict and everyone’s favourite “I am too sensitive”. It was a lot of times the authority which did so. It’s not called authority, it’s called false authority where people try to use their power for their benefit and to suppress others. But no, not anymore. Because I left everything behind, everything that could overpower me to suppress my voice.

People come and ask me what happened to me, what all I faced, I open up and in return I don’t get even a single sentence of empathy but all the shit that it was my fault. No it was not. I didn’t deserve to be treated like that, no matter what. No human deserves to be treated like that.

People, sorry not people, abusers, they abuse you but don’t want to take self responsibility. Because they will have to agree to feel the shame if they did, the same shame that they were running from and abusing others.

I am not giving anyone power to come and tell me that it never happened or I asked for it or I deserved it or it’s because something’s wrong with me. Because it’s not the truth. I’ve never asked for approval or validation from anyone on if I was actually abused or not. Abuse is done to make you feel like you are the problem, when actually it’s the other person. Why should I accept it, to be treated like trash and to take someone else’s garbage as mine.

Everyone of us, who has been abused sometime in our life by someone we probably loved and cared for. We need to look them in the eye and tell them that this happened to me and I didn’t deserve it. You need to fix your shit and if you can’t, then atleast don’t expect me to take it anymore.

This post may not get that many likes, but may be it will turn some people towards self-reflection. May be some people will realise what our so called system can do to a person and why it needs to be changed.

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Who am I?

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I have been working on myself very hard for 3 years now and I feel it’s time to open up. I have been writing in a lot of posts that I know who I am. It’s going to be a big post but starting is more important.

I am an EMPATH. Empath is a personality type, it’s not a psychological problem, it’s actually how a person’s body and mind is structured to the level of DNA and neurons. We have heightened level of empathy, we can feel other people’s emotions in our body as of our own. Feeling other’s energies introduces sensitivity to sound, big crowdy places, heat, negative people, any kind of violence and toxic environments. It also comes with a gift of creativity and capability to heal myself and others.

I am not an exception, I know and have connected with so many creative people and youtubers who are also are also empaths. I here most of them saying that it’s just that an empath is different, but I see it as being extra ordinary (because I feel it’s time to introduce the Highly sensitives in this world as powerful and not weak). All empaths are very kind, never want to do anything wrong. Empaths are kind, generous, giving, caring but sometimes they do it at the cost of their own happiness.

Most of the empaths have strong intuition in childhood, growing up they learn to fit in the society and suppress their intuition and creativity as well. Sometimes we grow up feeling odd one out and with self-doubt of being crazy. Because we don’t know that the emotions that we feel are other people’s. Feeling anger, criticism, anxiety of everyone around is messy.

It’s very important for Empaths to be aware of what they are. Otherwise they spend most of their life in a limbo, in nihilism. We attract abusers, bullies and energy vampires because we are able to generate our own energy and we have a light because of our goodness. Our light is what attracts more abuse, being sensitive increases the affect of abuse on an empath than on any other type of person.

I have been working on myself and learnt a lot of things about myself. When empath are educated they are more powerful, strong and abuse-free. I have started becoming an empowered empath and rather than being scared of other people’s energies, now I enjoy being me.

Self love is the only thing which saves every empath from a lot of things. It makes us empowered and in control of our emotions. Not only I practice self-love, but it has also become my essence now.

I don’t see being sensitive as a flaw, it makes me different. I feel sensitive to nature, animals, children and people in need and want to help them. Which I don’t thing is a negative quality. My sensitivity brings me so many blessings.

I was waiting for the right time to share this with people, because I needed to be in an empowered state before sharing it. I know there is a chance of people reacting negatively to this. But now I am ready to deal with it.

I have also been going through an spiritual awakening since the time a completely accepted that I am an empath. First it was like an emotional awakening, when I remembered my deep self that I have been hiding. I learnt to love myself, to admire my own uniqueness, to appreciate myself for coming out strong through so many things. Then suddenly all my unconscious fears started coming up, I learnt that it is the “dark knight of the soul” phase that I am going through. Where all my qualities that were suppressed and all the fears that were introduced to me by my surroundings/society. After working on most of them and the big fears, I started blossoming and being happy. It was a feeling of bliss which I had never experienced.

Next I found myself changing psychologically, creatively and in every aspect of my life. Now I just be myself and get in flow with life. It’s like I am blossoming, and sometimes it gets scary because it’s new to me. But it’s still an expansion for me. I am becoming what I was meant to be and I am happy about it.

I am still a work in progress and still do get more realisations every now and then. I still have a lot to explore about myself and life. Sharing my journey with the world is also a part of loving myself unconditionally and fearlessly.

Thanks for bearing through this long post.

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Forgiveness

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To live lighter, learn to forgive. It frees you more than the other person. People act according to their conditioning and a lot of times it’s about them not you.

Don’t label people as bad but only their karma, their actions. Because the reason why a person is like that, is also because of society. ( The collective karma or consciousness).

I don’t want to sound philosophical here. But I have experienced it too many times that when I forgive someone completely for what they did. First it saves me from living in resentment. Next what happens is the people who were there for a season move away automatically (because now the karma is over) and those who are there for a lifetime, we are able to start fresh in the relationship or friendship. Sometimes people just turn into acquaintance from being your closed one, but at least the friction goes away.

This is the work of forgiveness. And there is one more aspect to forgiveness that is. If someone did something really bad to you. You don’t necessarily have to go and still love them like they didn’t do anything to hurt you, but actually to have a closure. That I forgive you, no harsh feelings, but I’m done with you and we are over.

P.S. you thought my life is easy, it’s not. I had too many people to forgive to be free. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me, my story is good. Because whatever happened in my life has shaped me for good. I just want to bring out the fact that your problems can make you miserable or better. Choice is always yours.

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Learn From Your Obstacles

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Found the right words finally.. I know it hurts to be learning from your obstacles, when you are in the situation, all you can think is why me. Same happened with me, but when I look back, I can see so many lessons which I might have not learnt if I did not go through those obstacles. So did I learn the lessons that people were trying to teach me. Actually the ones that life was trying to teach me.

I learnt different things. From one I learnt to respect all genders (yes all genders, not only two), another took me back to start painting again, one showed me all my fears and hence I got a chance to work on each one of it. Some showed me the importance of life, importance of family, importance of friendship, meaning of death, to respect all ages, to respect women, to respect equality, to respect myself, to love myself, to be vocal, to travel, some taught me to respect the defined lower tribe, some taught me the meaning of trust, meaning of faith, meaning of hope, meaning of forgiveness, meaning of will power, meaning of love, of pain. Some took me closer to my understanding of my purpose of life. Most of it all, it all made me stronger everytime and my sadness taught me the importance of happiness.

Whatever life throws at you, can be utilized for your growth. It only depends on your attitude and mindset. Everything that life gives, can help you open your mind.
My intention here is not to brag about anything. But i feel grateful that I learnt so much so early in life and maybe I would be able to make a better life now. And i want to spread the message of hope that no matter what you are facing now, the sun will rise and you will shine one day. Don’t give up. Nothing has so much power over you.

Brahmakumaris say “what’s in the way, is the way”.

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